Hi there 

My husband was diagnosed with gastric cancer in 2019, he went on to have a full gastrectomy. Since then our lives have gone from bad to worse. He suffers from bile and every meal is stressful and difficult.

He is never in good form anymore and moans and complains all the time. Everything peaked for me last week on holiday in Portugal when he caused rows with staff at the end of meals and refused to tip people. We had to run out of one restaurant to avoid the embarrassment. Our children are almost adults and really aware of his behavior. He is largely supported by me financially and I've paid back our mortgage so has very few other worries. I fully understand what he's lost and wants his life as before but I now feel that after 24 years of marriage I don't have another 24. For now I just want friendship and a reconfigured relationship to give us both space to re-evaluate. He can't accept this, is making out he doesn't complain of 80% of his pain. He refuses to engage with doctors, psychologists, tells them a different version of events. I feel terrible choosing to take time out but I feel there is no choice for me right now.