Hi Zip76,

been thinking of you, any update? X

Hi, thank you for your concern,

She came home for our 15yr olds birthday last weekend, meant to stay from sat for couple of nights,if i could stay out a night!,she came round in fri morning with presents, he wanted nandos takeout for tea so i invited her back later for tea with us, she picked boys up from school/college and I came home with food. Walked into hall way and saw a suitcase and bags at the bottom of stairs! went into living room she just said "I thought I might awell stay from tonight"! I Didn't make a fuss just said ok I'll go change bedding then. Had a nice evening with the boys just felt like normal, thought a weekend in her own bed and surroundings might change things but didn't get my hopes as I know what she's like! Anyway came home Monday from work and she'd packed up and gone before I got home. And next day got txt asking when can I contact the letting agent about moving in to a flat I rent out!! To live on  own with another 4 chemos and radiotherapy and op to go, not sure how that'll work, like you say NO logic to anything their doing at the moment. Just found out she's had her 3rd chemo today, I didn't have a clue. Mix abit of bipolar inn there and it's even more of a nightmare,  tbh I think I'm done with trying. She doesn't want any help, don't get anything nice back when I ask if she needs help or even of she's OK. Just gona concentrate on me and the boys,  as horrible as that sounds , hope your OK x

I just wanted to update everybody that miraculously and wonderfully by mid-November we were fully reconciled and remain so! It was an incredibly difficult couple of weeks and the precariousness of it all and the push/pull part was heart wrenching. However, eventually he was taken unwell and realised how much he both wanted and needed me. He has not looked back since and I couldn't be happier. We have odd tough moments, who doesn't with terminal cancer and all that it entails and I just want to offer others hope to not give up ever. Xx

I'm so pleased to hear this.  Onwards and upwards for you both, sticking together  is so much better than being alone.  I know it's terminal but I wish you both the best.  Carol x

I can't believe I'm reading this. I literally just posted my story to ask for advice. My partner after 6 years, 3 years of cancer put me out of our home on Wednesday after being her sole carer for 3 years. We were so close and loving. She meassaged me today to day that she never wants me to contact her again that its over for good. I begged and pleaded the night before she made me leave. She said I was a domestic abuser and that she doesn't trust me. She threatened to call the police. I am devasted I can't eat, sleep or deal with anything.  We have our wedding booked for August. She is on high dose immunosuppressants and prednisolone.  I was putting it down to the meds but I think it's a combination of everything. I hope and pray she gun's it in her heart to come back to me. If she passes away from this disease I have to lose her twice and I don't think I can cope 

I'm so sad to read this and really hope things are already improving. I used the steps in the thriving marriage guidance group on Facebook run by a lady called Heather Choate. It was really hard allowing myself to be so vulnerable and initially allowing him tI come and go (My friends worried I was just being used) but it was time needed to help him rewrite his story about me and allow himself to make steps to restore our marriage. I really hope you'll both be ok and I totally understand the heartache x