Struggling with my dad’s diagnosis

Hi all!

My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer two weeks ago. He had bladder cancer 15 years ago, and has been in remission for around 10 of those years. His care team are amazing, and it was at one of his routine check-ups that they caught the prostate cancer developing, thankfully very early. I was very young when he had his first bought of cancer, and so I couldn't really grasp the severity of the diagnosis. Now, though, I'm 24, and I'm very aware of the possible outcomes. 

I won't lie, it hit me like a sledgehammer. His consultant is positive about his prognosis, and so is he, but I can't seem to stop worrying about it. Everyone around me just expects me to get on with life and to think that everything will be fine (as if my mentality will somehow affect the outcome?). I know the survival rates for prostate cancer in his age group are very good, and while that's encouraging, I guess I just need someone to tell me I'm not overreacting.

If people are comfortable sharing, how did you react to the diagnosis of a loved one? 
 

 

  • Hello noplace

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis. It's natural that you're feeling anxious about this news but it's really positive to hear that it's been caught early and his Consultant is confident about the prognosis. 

    We've had many men here on the forum who have successfully been through treatment for prostate cancer. We also have a good number of gents who have been living with prostate cancer for years. So whilst it's understandable that you're feeling worried about your Dad's health at the moment, try to balance those fears with some positive thoughts as well. You might find it useful to have a look through this information on our website. 

    We know that for many people it can help to talk things through with someone. Sometimes vocalising our thoughts and emotions can help us to rationalise them and put some perspective on the situation. If you'd like to chat things through with one of our team of nruses you're most welcome to give them a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. I'm sure they will be happy to chat and try and offer some support. 

    I wish your Dad well with his upcoming treatment. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator