Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel all the emotions. We too have found ourselves in a similar situation. Dad has slowly declined over the weeks. At first, he started to sleep a little more and began to refuse foods. He has started to get very confused now and sleeps a lot more and was in a lot of pain until this was managed. Try and have open conversations about his wishes. Talk about all the good times and memories. Be there for each other. Thinking of you
im sorry about your dad, my dad has recently been diagnosed with incurable cancer, with the doctors not knowing how long he has left.
im also the oldest sibling so I understand your struggle, as it's a lot of pressure and you feel a lot of responsibility.
no matter what you're doing, as long as it's your best or what you can provide, don't feel guilty about not being able to do more. You're only human, and can only do so much, with a lot being out of your control.
I've found giving my parents space when I feel like they need it is helping, as I can recharge my battery and mental health. Even just sitting with them and showing presence around them can help because you're there and it can open up conversations with your parents if they need support.
be patient with yourself and with others, they might be moody or lash out as the situation is just unfair and there's no one to take it out on, or you might lash out if you're in a bad mindset.
I hope you and your family are coping as well as you can.
