My dad has been newly diagnosed with cancer.

Hi all I hope this post finds it's way to the correct area on the site. My dad was diagnosed with liver cancer almost 2 months ago I want to say? (Haven't been keeping track of the amount of time that's passed) I don't know the stage or if he knows either he came back with a booklet yesterday morning after his hospital visit that said HCC/ Hepatocelluar carcinoma on it so I assume that's the specific type he's got, we know he has two smallish tumours on the liver as of right now one is going to be gotten rid of with heat or alcohol (can't remember exact name for this process i read about it in the booklet they gave him) He has a month until an op which i think is to remove the second tumour? According to dad he was told he has to stop drinking I think full stop before this op, however it seems like they haven't given him resources to make sure he starts to quit so I don't really know how he's going to manage that, he wants us to buy him non alcoholic beer to try so I guess it seems like somewhere deep down he might want to try cutting down at least? I am worried about him though because he admitted to being depressed earlier he obviously has been for a very long time and has been an alcoholic for many years so you know that's one of the risk factors that upped his chances of getting it, I still don't know a lot so I feel quite lost with this all. I have quite a distant relationship with my dad because he's usually out of it from meds hes on or from drink so I don't know how to support him? Advice? My mum seems like she expected it to happen eventually truthfully i did too so im in shock a little but not a lot? Not really sure what I'm feeling. Before I go he sent in a stool sample a few weeks back for a bowel cancer screening which my mum got too (seems like they sent them to all adults 56 and over from googling) he had a call earlier saying they found blood in it so now that's added stress worrying that he could have bowel cancer as well

  • Hello Anonymous2022

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis and all the health problems that he's dealing with. It's obviously a very difficult time for both you and your Mum at the moment. 

    We have some information about liver cancer on our website which you may find useful but if your Dad has been allocated a specialist nurse then I'd suggest speaking to them regarding your concerns about support to help him stop drinking. 

    Alternatively, you're welcome to call our team of nurses to chat things through with them. I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice, information, and support that they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    It sounds positive that they're able to offer your Dad some treatment options so hopefully, over the coming weeks, the team will be able to offer you some reassurance about things. 

    Keep in touch and let us know how you get on. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator