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Dad has stage four oesophageal cancer

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My dad has been diagnosed with stage four oesophageal cancer, it has spread to his lymph nodes, stomach and liver and that's all I know so far. His care plan states it isn't curable and that he can have chemo to blast it to prolong his life to 1 or 2 years but without treatment its looking at months. He has decided he will go for a three or four week chemo round but after that he doesn't want anymore. Today he has requested for morphine because the pain is starting to get too much. He is on a tube, as he cannot eat or drink anything without him throwing it back up or getting stuck. I'm kind of just asking in this post for anyone else's stories? I know I don't have long but I want to be prepared for how long it may actually be. 

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis. When my dad was diagnosed with incurable stage 4 lung cancer with mets to his liver and bone I too was devastated and terrified. He was told he would have treatment, and on the day of his treatment while still at home he passed unexpectedly. From the time he was diagnosed to his passing, he lived for 9 weeks. I hope with every ounce of me that your dad lives a long life, my only advice is please don't hold back on what you wish to say to him and discuss. I pushed back certain conversations because we were told he had more than enough time with treatment (and I mean we were told this less than a week before he passed he still had a lot of time with treatment). I hold so much anxiety, guilt and worry because there's things I wish I could of said. We never know what is round the corner, and I really do hope and pray that you're dad will be okay. 
    I'm sorry this isn't the most positive reply, and I hope other people reply soon with happy and hopeful stories, but please take my advice and don't hold back and let your dad know how much you love him. 
    Take care sweet x

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis. When my dad was diagnosed with incurable stage 4 lung cancer with mets to his liver and bone I too was devastated and terrified. He was told he would have treatment, and on the day of his treatment while still at home he passed unexpectedly. From the time he was diagnosed to his passing, he lived for 9 weeks. I hope with every ounce of me that your dad lives a long life, my only advice is please don't hold back on what you wish to say to him and discuss. I pushed back certain conversations because we were told he had more than enough time with treatment (and I mean we were told this less than a week before he passed he still had a lot of time with treatment). I hold so much anxiety, guilt and worry because there's things I wish I could of said. We never know what is round the corner, and I really do hope and pray that you're dad will be okay. 
    I'm sorry this isn't the most positive reply, and I hope other people reply soon with happy and hopeful stories, but please take my advice and don't hold back and let your dad know how much you love him. 
    Take care sweet x

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