Hello Wellsy and welcome to the Cancer Chat community.

I'm sorry to hear your partner has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer which has spread to his liver. This must be a very difficult time for you both but I'm glad you've joined us as many of our members have been in this position, so you are not alone, and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

We have some useful information on how to support someone with cancer on our website as well as some guidance on managing diet problems with cancer but if you'd like to discuss any of this with one of our cancer nurses, they're just a phone call away on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

I hope this helps and all goes well with your partner's chemo.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

An absolutely fantastic site for all things PC is www.pancreaticcancer.org.uk/.../

The nurses on there are specialist PC nurses. My uncle used the site. I've linked to the forum so you can speak with people in a similar position to yourself.

Thank you so much x

Hello Wellsy, my husband was diagnosed yesterday. It is a lot to take in isn't it. My husband had no symptoms, he just became jaundiced. As it is weekend we can't get a lot of information until all the tests are done and assessed, but palliative care has been mentioned.

If you don't mind, I will follow your posts, it might help as you are a little more into this journey than we are.

Wish you both all the best, hope chemo starts soon x

Hi Lily2020, I'm so sorry to hear your news and yes it is a lot to take in. My partner starts his first cycle of chemo on the 2nd of August so another 2 weeks of waiting. He first went in to hospital with jaundice and had to have a stent put in his bile duct to get rid of the jaundice. This cleared up within a matter of days. After having scans done a mass was showing on his pancreas which turned out to be stage 4 cancer. He will have 6 cycles of chemo, 1 day each week for a month after which they then check bloods and will scan after 3 month to see how things are going. I'm hoping the chemo works and shrinks the cancer so we can have him longer. Our daughter has booked her wedding for August 2023 and is now considering cancelling, so difficult.

My partner is ok at the moment although has lost a lot of weight, they have put him on a tablet called creon which helps with the digestion of food. He lost his appetite for a while but that is slowing coming back. The main thing now is to try and keep him well and maybe get some weight on him so that he can proceed with his treatment.

I hope that your husband has all his tests done soon. I don't know what stage your husbands cancer is although you have mentioned palliative care. I tend to take each day as it comes now and not think too much ahead. 

I wish you both all the best, let me know how you are getting on. Xxx
 

My husband's first and only symptom was the jaundice, no other symptom. My husband is 80 and has other health problems.

Unfortunately his cancer has spread as well, but due to age and health, treatment is not viable.

He doesn't want to know how long they think he has. He is coming home today looking quite well.

We are just going to take each day as it comes. He is in no pain so just taking comfort in that.

Good luck on your husband's treatment, hope it all goes well and he gets stronger after each treatment. Difficult situation with your daughter's wedding, hard decision to make.

Look after yourself x

I'm so glad your husband is pain free. 

Looking at the list of possible side effects of having chemo, and there are loads, it's not something I would want to go through at 80 years of age. My partner is 67 so that much younger.

We must try and enjoy each good day that we have with our loved ones. We can worry about the bad ones as and when they arrive. I hope you are offered lots of help and support and, accept all that is offered.

Take care of yourself and let me know how you are both getting on.

Sending lots of hugs from South Wales xx

All the best Wellsy, at 67 he is still a relatively young man .

He will be much stronger to cope with the chemo.

I am sure it is going to be a tiring stressful couple of months for both of you.

My husband came home this afternoon and although looking tired, he is already looking a little less yellow.

The jaundice was affecting the efficiency of his Parkinson's medication, but he already seems bit brighter.

All the very best, post how the sessions go. Remember to look after yourself, you need to be fit and well to be able to support him.

Sending lots of hugs back to you from South Wales

Hi - where would I find information on what you should and shouldn't eat when you are a diabetic fighting cancer (advanced pancreatic cancer) and wanting to put on some weight. My partners sugar levels fluctuate, usually in the high 20's but reached 40 this week, chemo cancelled as too high. We've asked for a diet sheet but not received it. Ive looked online but doesn't mention about diabetes and sugar levels, unless I've missed this. I really need to know what foods to give him.