Really only come on here to vent. Life is so tough at the moment dad has been fighting kidney cancer since 2018 in April this year we found that it had metastasis to his brain with 3 mets. He had a seizure and everything has spiralled out of control, he lost most of his mobility, needs 24 hour care, he's agitated and stressed a majority of the time. They've stopped all chemo and said he is now end of life and Pallative care. He has very little appetite and hardly drinking throughout the day . 
slowly but surely we know we are loosing him he's sleeping 17-18 hours a day. We have made a referral to the hospice. It's so hard as dads memory has been affected so has no clue regarding diagnosis and prognosis. Too add to this I lost my 35 year old brother 3 weeks ago after a short 3 month battle with stomach cancer. Life is so hard on us all