Hi Hannahlisa17, first of all, I am so sorry about your Dad's diagnosis.  I suspect that your Dad is still in quite a bit of shock, and this can make people behave as if nothing is wrong...........it's almost as if we want to convince ourselves that somehow the Doctors have got it all wrong.  I understand how you feel because I have walked in your shoes.  I took care of my mum when she was dying of cancer and she told me and my sisters straight out that she didn't want 'any cancer conversations'.  Just like you I found it a bit frustrating because as you say, there are things that need to be said.  Anyway, we decided to respect our mum's wishes and we never mentioned the 'C' word.  It was only when the Oncologist told me and my sisters that there was nothing more that could be done for our mum that I said to her that we needed to know what her wishes for a burial were...........she said that she wanted a cremation, because by that stage she knew she was dying.  And that was it.  There is one thing that I have always regretted and it is the fact that I never told my mum how much I loved her.  Whether she wanted to hear it or not, I wish I had just said it.

This is not an easy journey for you my darling...........the death of a parent is one of life's hardest losses, but you know something, you might have your dad for quite a few good years, and where there is life there is always hope.  Miracles can and do happen.........we have to believe that.  I have said this many times before to many different people over the years, but when we are going through a crisis. we find an inner strength we never knew we had.   Good luck to you and your Dad, take care mate, Violet, x