Hi,
I am about 4 months pregnant. My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer about a week after I found out I was pregnant, and was given weeks to months to live. I normally live very far away but came back as soon as I heard. My partner has work so came for a brief time, but as its expensive and he doesnt have much annual leave he won't be able to come visit again, as we obviously need to keep some time and money available for when the baby comes.
I plan to stay as long as my dad is alive but that obviously puts where I will be for most of my pregnancy a bit in flux. I do have my mum here who does the vast majority of hands on caring, but do not have any friends or other family nearby.
Charities like Marie Curie and the local hospice have been very helpful supporting with my dads physical needs, but despite asking for emotional support they have not provided any. At the moment neither of my parents really want to persue emotional support but I have been trying to engage with charities. So far I have not been able to get on any waiting lists, let alone access any support. I have tried through charities and through my GP but it always seems like a chain of referrals and then I hit a brick wall where I just do not recieve any reply.
So I was wondering if anyone has succesfully found any support or know of anything that is helpful. I want to be here for my dad and for my mum but I barely leave the house at this point as I have such low energy and nowhere to go.
I have asked macmillian for support as they advertise it all over my city but they told me I had to go to the hospice, who have been helpful to my dad but dont ever get back to me on details of family support, even though they say they provide it.
I can understand that charities are overworked and there are many people in even tougher situations, but it feels like I am a hamster in a wheel trying to figure out how to cope with the situation and find support.
