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Support for my Mum

JulieK66
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Hi  

My father is at end of life through cancer and is being cared for at home with a mixture of live in carers and nurses.  My Mum is now 85 and finding it all very difficult as together with seeing my Dad dying before her eyes she has people living in her house and all that end of life entails.  I am very concerned about her mental health and whilst myself and my brother do as much as we can I feel she would benefit from attending a support group.  She is not IT literate and at the moment won't speak to anyone on the phone so I'm hoping to find a group that I can take her to.  Does anyone have any recommendations please? 

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    Hello JulieK66, Ive just recently lost my 76 year old husband and he died at home and yes it was very difficult and tiring but the last thing I would have wanted to do was visit a support group whilst he was still with me.  Does Mum want this or is it something you think would help.  At the end of tiring, stressful days I just wanted to sit and watch rubbish TV and not to have to talk to anyone about what was happening.  I'm sure someone will suggest a support group, or ask the McMillan nurses or your surgery, they can all help but make sure this is what Mum wants.  I'm so sorry you're all going through this, it's not easy and I know how you all feel.  Take care, Carol x 

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    Dear Carol

    Thank you so much for your kind response and I'm sorry for the loss of your husband.  I totally understand what you're saying as you're so right and it's exhausting isn't it.  Mum struggles with being in all the time as Dad and she used to go out and about a lot when he was well.  Whilst we do what we can she does miss talking to people and mentioned herself that it would be good to speak to others in her situation.  Unfortunately she lost her best friend a couple of weeks ago so that avenue for her to have a listening ear is now closed too.  I will check with her surgery and have sent an email to McMillan so hopefully I will find something suitable for her.  Thanks again for reaching out.

    Best wishes

    Julie 

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