Hi, nearly five years ago my husband had stage 4 base of tongue cancer he also had a lump in his neck. He had radical radiotherapy but no chemo due to his age he was eighty. Five weeks ago he went for routine appointment and a lump had reappeared in the same place, He has had biopsy etc., and the cancer is in operable. We are going tomorrow to see onocologist to see what they can suggest. The tumour is near the main artery. I only know this as I have spoken to his consultant, I was chasing up results. I keep crying although not infront of my husband but infront of my daughters.I feel I should hold it together for them and feel guilty. My daughter in laws mother told me I should be brave but I do not feel brave, I have been married for 45 years and just feel as if I am grieving even though my husband is still here. Really struggling.
