Hi Julliete,

I am so so sorry to hear about your dad and what has happened to him and what he is going through. What an awful thing for you to have to see your dad to go through. I'm really sorry for you both ️ and I really do hope things will start to improve for him soon. 

I haven't experienced this or know anyone who has but I noticed you've not had any replies so I wanted to just let you know that you're not here alone and that I care, as do others, I'm sure you will get more replies soon from others with better advice.

What I will say to you is that there's always hope and light at the end of the tunnel can suddenly get brighter and closer to you out of the blue. Your dad is in good hands and hopefully they can get him through this difficult time.

I send you and your dad lots of hugs and love. Please keep talking here with us if you want to.

Love Jess xx

Hello, 

My partner had this operation in 2015, he had no complications after it, our lives have changed since the op quite a bit, he suffered with depression after it as he thought he would never be able to return to the life he once knew, he was fit and healthy aged 55 loved his job and had a real zest for life. He worked for the local authority and had a very manual job, I think the hardest part of the op was the changes he had to deal with going forward, but we found help with a guy through the nhs who talked him through his feelings and he described what he felt as like a bereavement in that he was longing for his previous life and even though it could never be he could learn to move on , it's kind of hard to explain. The main thing is that there is hope , it was seven years ago and he returned to work after 12 weeks although extremely light duties but it was for his mental health mainly . I would say that the last seven years have been sometimes tough and he had to get used to sleeping upright , not being able to eat things he used to, we still socialise but differently to before as he can't eat late or drink much if we go out he just has a small glass of orange juice, his fitness levels are back but not to how they were before but he became stronger and fitter . 
it's just unfortunate that seven years later he has just been diagnosed with a secondary brain tumour and lung cancer, they have told him that the lung cancer is primary so nothing to do with the first cancer in 2015. It's all very hard to deal with, he has just had the tumour removed two weeks ago and starting chemo for the lungs in two weeks , I truly hope your dad makes a good recovery. It is a very scary time for you but there are many like my partner that made a good recovery and returned to their lives . Wishing you and your family all the best xx