Some weeks ago I found out my brother had cancer, he had known for over a month. I know it's not good even tho he is telling us nothing. He came up to stay with me for Christmas and has deteriorated since. He has not eating and refusing an ambulance, I understand his fear of going into hospital but I am at my wits end. Everyone I have contacted has said I need to ring an ambulance but I know he will refuse and I understand his fear of going in and not coming out. It happened to my dad. I am please looking for support here from people that might understand. I feel like I have neglected him badly.  Today I tried to talk to him again about an ambulance but he said tomorrow he would sort it himself. I spoke to his nurse where he was due Chemo last week but missed it, she said he might have an infection, is clearly dehydrated and that Chemo is very dangerous. Please please help. I am terrified. Even if he finally agrees to an ambulance I am going to feel so so much guilt. Please help. He has not engaged with any public health services.