Hi,

I want to know how do people stay positive while caring for a loved one with stage 4 cancer?

They found a lump in my Mum in October 2019 and then she went through a mastectomy, aggressive chemo and drug therapy until August 2020. She didn't leave the house much or do much because of Covid. Then then November 2020 they did a CT and found the cancer had spread to her liver and it cannot be cured and she would receive ongoing treatment to control it a bit. When my family found this out it devasted us all. Apart from me 21, my brother 23, and my parents we have no extended family or any else either one of us can rely on.

I don't know how to keep positive when talking about her cancer. I've not done anything with my life I left college and came to work in my family's business. I've not achieved anything and I feel like she will never see me achieve anything. She will never see my children, see me buy my first house, grow our family business or walk down the aisle at my wedding. I feel trapped and I want to tell people about my mum (she's only told my family about the recent diagnosis) so that I can be comforted by people asking how I am but I also hate when people treat you different because your mum is dying of cancer. People walk on eggshells around you when they hear the word cancer.

does anyone else feel like this? I've battelyed with depression and anxiety in the past and now I'm deciding to reach out because i googled forums about my situation and couldn't see much.