Sooooooo where do I begin my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer 3 years ago and has had 3 separate rounds of chemo . His last round of chemo didn't really do much and his PSA levels were still creeping up (not alarmingly high as they said ) . Anyway he started having a bad back 3/4 months ago and doctors put it down to a trapped nerve , on doing a scan 2 weeks ago it showed that the cancer had spread to his spine . He's also having pain in his ribs . The consultant has said he now has to have radiotherapy to strengthen his bones and try alleviate the pain. My dad is like a closed book he doesn't open up and doesn't tell me Much all I know is he's in a lot of pain with his back and has some strong medication . My dad doesn't live local to myself and trying to get him to open up to me is so hard as he's so proud and has never been a person who is ever ill. He's been a hard working man all his life and is now retired . I can't understand if the radiotherapy is to just make him comfy or what???? I feel like I'm drowning in my own thoughts . I want him to be honest with me as I want to be prepared for the future ahead . Has anyone had this and is this something he can live with for a long time or is now it's spread to his spine something that's going to be only months of treatment. I'm just finding it so hard to get my head around it all as he doesn't tell me everything and I feel like I'm going crazy cancer really does totally suck . Any help and guidance would be much appreciated thanks for reading xxx