Hi and thanks for posting

It sounds like you've had a tough time and I can understand your reluctance to restart using the dilator.

It's difficult for anyone to advise you here as we aren't involved with your care - however, it may be helpful to initially start using the dilator just once or twice weekly and increase it slowly.

Some people find different positions while inserting it can be less painful - like putting in a tampon for example or lying on your side. It may also be helpful taking some paracetamol an hour before if you're finding it painful. Using a smaller size may also be a good idea initially and progress to a larger one as it becomes easier.

Hopefully you're already using a water based lubricant with the dilator and the rest of the week using a vaginal moisturiser to keep things less dry and irritated. You may get a little bit of spotting as the scar stretches , but do get it checked out again with the nurse at your clinic. You can read some more about using the dilator here on our website   

I hope things start to settle down and things become easier for you

All the best

Wanda

Thank you for your reply. I will look at using a smaller dialator when I am fully healed and try a different position but must admit to being very worried as do not want to reopen the wound. 

Hi I had my hysterectomy in March but this week on using my dialator I’ve started to have spots of blood on it and I wipe away small amounts of blood after I’ve passed water after using. No one explains how far to push in, I have no pain using number 3, but have noticed a sore bit up on my left inside, is this how urs was please, and did u tell hospital

Hi Mario,

I could actually see the site on my vaginal wall using a mirror I then started to bleed. They told me that you can get spotting after using the diallator but I would certainly phone your cancer nurse at your hospital and explain it. I was told my site would heal eventually and to keep using the dialator. I have decided not to continue with it and am still healing 4 months on. The site looks a lot better and hopefully it will soon heal completely. No one gives you much information on this do they and I found the hospital were not at all concerned about it and I felt like I was making a mountain out of a molehill. However there is also no scientific evidence that using the dialator works. I would however advise getting in touch with the hospital to put your mind at rest. Hope this helps.