Hello and thanks for posting

I'm sorry to read about your partner's situation and appreciate what a difficult time this must be for you both.

Every caring situation is different. What you can expect will depend on what your partner needs, and this can change over the coming weeks or months. You may share caring with family or friends, or you may be the only carer. You may offer taking them to and from appointments, provide emotional support, helping with daily tasks, and if needed helping with personal care such as bathing and dressing.

It's important to be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time .

Macmillan Cancer Support has information on looking after someone with cancer that you may find helpful. They also have information on looking after yourself as a carer which includes advice on where to get support

Maggie centres provide psychological support and counselling to people affected by cancer and this can be done over the phone as well as in person if there is a centre nearby.

You may also like to search up support available by postcode on the cancer care map website to find out what support is available in your local area.

You don’t need to move bedrooms with an ileostomy. You might choose separate sleeping arrangements if there is leakage at night, or you or your partner feel more comfortable with space.

Bed protectors can help especially early on or if there are leaks, and can save on washing.

I hope this is of some help. Give us a ring if you would like to talk anything over. The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

Kind regards,

Celene