I think my mum is lying about cancer and I accidentally opened my mouth.

Hi nurses firstly thank you for all you do! I just want some advice really my mum has been  saying she’s got breast cancer this has been going on over a year now but nothing has seemed to change yes she looks more run down but she drinks a lot. This wouldn’t be the first time she has lied about it and it getting to me because deep down I know she’s lying because I always think you listen to your gut .

When we were in contact I was always offering to go with her but the morning of the ‘appointments’ she would say it’s been cancelled or I don’t feel well enough. She’s apparently going now but she doesn’t take her boyfriend who doesn’t do anything with his day she takes her friend but I personally think that’s because her friend won’t demand to come in the room with her whereas her partner would find it weird if she didn’t want him in the room?

She has said she has had a bioposy? But that was over 6 months ago and I didn’t go to that and secondly I don’t really know what that is and I think that’s where she can try and manipulate me because I don’t know a lot about it.

please may I have some advice as I don’t like that I look like the nasty one but I know I’m right because as I said previously it isn’t the first time she has lied about it she has lied about it 4 times before. 
thank you 

  • Hello, Princess2006_ and thank you for getting in touch.

    I’m sorry this is such a difficult and confusing situation for you. It’s completely understandable to feel unsure, especially if things haven’t always been clear in the past.

    Unfortunately, we’re not able to know exactly what is going on with your mum. If you feel able to, it may help to try having another open and honest conversation with her, so you can understand more about what has been said and what is happening.

    A breast biopsy is a test where a small sample of breast tissue is taken and looked at closely under a microscope. This is the main way doctors can confirm whether someone has breast cancer. It can also provide more information about how the cells are behaving and whether they have certain proteins, which helps doctors decide on the most appropriate treatment.

    If breast cancer is diagnosed, doctors will usually plan treatment as soon as possible. You can read more about the different types of breast cancer treatment on our website.

    I hope you’re able to get some clarity so you can feel more confident in how to support your mum.

    Please do get back in touch if you’d like to talk things through further or need any more information.

    Take care

    Jemma

  • Hi thank you for your reply I don’t speak to her anymore but I just can’t get it out of my head.