Hi Shazza369 and thank you for your post.

I’m really sorry to hear about everything you and your family have been through. You’ve had so much sadness, and it’s understandable that you have questions and feel upset.

You wanted to donate part of your liver or a kidney to help your brother, and that shows how loving and caring you are.

It can feel unfair to be told you are ‘too old’ to donate. But doctors have to make sure that any organ donation is safe for both the donor and the person receiving the organ.

They check each person carefully, and every transplant centre has its own rules.

The NHS Organ Donation states that In the UK, there is no upper age limit for giving a kidney while you are alive.

Give a Kidney believes what matters most is your health, not your age. Some people in their 70s and even 80s have been able to donate if they are well enough.

Doctors test donors to check their kidneys work well and that donation would not put them at risk. Even if one centre says no, another may assess someone differently.

Maybe you could reach out to your brother’s hospital specialist to ask what their criteria is for donating.

Please get back to us if you need any more information or support

It might help to talk things through with one of our nurses on the helpline. You can call for free on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

Kind regards

Tina