Hi my dad is 81 and has multiple cancers plus fibrosis .he is declining and very thin and weak . My mum is also 81 and is amazing how she cares for him . However my sister and I are very concerned as mum is getting up with him multiple times a night due to urine being spilt on the bed or she's helping him trying to walk and he falls and then sometimes she does and he cant get up on his own at all.

Mum is resistant to accepting any help but we are really concerned .my sister has just contacted a Sue ryder nurse to ask if there was any progression in the fast track we were told he was on and the nurse said they had taken him off this and she thought he wasn't " a dying man " . The doctor who came to see him told him he was and he is

My sister was very upset after the call she said she sas offered no compassion or understanding and the information was contradicting the other things we wete told

The nurse isnt even coming this week , as she thought my dad wasn't " a dying man:. He cant even get dressed  wash , sit up, balence or manage personal  care  

We are now left with a situation we feel is dangerous and affecting dad's last few weeks 

Im messaging to ask if you have any information to help us we would be very greatful