Help

I am a mum of 3. My twins are doing their GCSEs my other son is 13. So there are demands there. My father in law has just been moved in to a hospice as he has terminal lukemeia. My dad has just been diagnosed with prostate cancer which was a shock as he only went for a test because his friend or has an enlarged prostate told him to. He starts a range of treatments next week. The children don’t know as the grandparents don’t want them worrying during their exams. My husband is very upset about his dad and is finding g it hard to know when to visit as they live over 4 hours away. We are both teachers too which means we have rather stressful jobs. 
im just saying this as I’m trying to juggle so many balls at the moment. I keep going but I feel like I’m on a ride and want to get off. I’m trying to be brave for everyone. And acting like nothings wrong with the kids is taking its toll. 
there is no answer but I felt that if I wrote this I might not be the only person who feels this way. Loneliness is a crowded room. 

  • Hello and thank you for posting,

    I am sorry to learn of both your father-in-law and your dad's situation. I can appreciate you have a lot going on and I can imagine it is overwhelming.

    We have information about how to support someone with cancer and there is a section on how to look after yourself which I hope will be useful.

    You may also find it helpful to re post on our "living with cancer" page where more people may be able to see your post and share their experiences.

    I hope you have friends or family that you can lean on at this difficult time for support. If you would like to talk things through with one of our nurses on the helpline, you would be welcome to give us a call we are available between 9am and 5pm Monday to Friday and the number to call is 0808 800 4040,

    Take care,

    Jemma