Hello and thanks for posting

I'm sorry to read about your friends situation.

People often ask what more can they do to support friends or family going through cancer treatment. But talking and listening and being there when you can are what most people find useful. Sometimes it can be better to ask them what they would find most helpful for you to do for them. They may really appreciate you taking on if you can, some housework, getting shopping in, preparing meals or taking them to hospital appointments.

On our website, we have information about supporting someone with cancer both emotionally and practically  The charity Macmillan Cancer Support have some further information on their website. It's important that you also look after yourself. Macmillan also have information on looking after yourself and how to access support..

Having cancer can place an enormous strain on everything else in life including relationships. This is something that will hopefully pass, but in all relationships it is ok to have boundaries and decide what is and isn't acceptable to us.

We are all different and sometimes people behave selfishly or badly because they feel threatened or frightened. I'm not sure if this could have anything to do with your friends behaviour. It may help to take a look at our information on our website about cancer and emotions that you may find useful.

I hope this has been of some help. Give us a ring if you would like to talk anything over. The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

Kind regards,

Celene