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hello i would like some advice please if you can .... well i have a partner but we dont live together well a few years back he beat cancer with the help of treatments and then a year and half later he found out he had stage one cancer again and nearly two weeks ago he had an operation to remove it and he told me that they took part of his smouch and left a feeding tube and also give him a machine to use at home and hes back at his place now and im really am worried about him and what makes it worse hes saying i dont know when im going to see him again and hes making it same that i wont be able to see for another 4 to 6 months but he says he will phone or text me when he can so im just wondering because of an operation like that how long will it take for him to live a normal life and have the feeding tube removed from his smouch 

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    Hi Patricia

    Maybe go visit him to offer support and find out what help he needs. If you are not able to travel maybe you could contact a friend or family member of his  to get a better idea of his situation. Best wishes

    Ed

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    Hi you must be really worried and wondering what's going on , if I were you I would pay a surprise visit offering your help ,rather than sitting at home waiting for a text or phone call ,you will drive yourself crazy ,he maybe wants to handle this alone but its one way of finding out .

  • Hi there and thanks for posting

    I am sorry to hear about your partners situation and appreciate what a difficult time this must be for you both.

    Everyone who has cancer is different and the treatment required and recovery will vary greatly. Without being involved in your partners care or knowing exactly what he has undergone treatment wise, it is difficult for us to be be able to comment.

    Ideally I would try and speak to your partner and ask if you can see him soon so you can talk to him face to face and get a better understanding of what has happened and what the future may look like.

    I don't know how far you live away from one another, but if you are able to attend a hospital appointment with him you may be able to ask the team involved some questions.

    There is information about how to support someone with cancer on our website that may be helpful to take a look at.

    I hope this is helpful but please get back in touch if you have more questions. You are also welcome to call us on 0808 800 4040 if you prefer. We are here week days 9-5.

    All the best

    Naomi

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