Bowel Cancer / Stoma

Evening, my father has been battling bowel cancer (primary) and liver cancer (secondary) for about 3 years now. Initially he went through chemotherapy and the liver cancer shrunk. The bowel lesions, however, seemed to remail. After various months / scans, he went through radiotherapy, with a chemo pill. Again the liver seemed to be fine but the bowel didn’t fully. Fast forward to 5 weeks ago where he was admitted for surgery to have part of his bowel removed and a stoma fitted. 

The surgeons / consultants continue to say, the initial operation went well. But he needed further surgery 2 weeks into his stay to repair a leak and all this time (5ish weeks) he hasn’t eaten, been on feeding tube, and saline / hydration, as well as insulin due to being a type one diabetic from teenager. He can’t eat without throwing up and I’m getting really worried.

My father is an ex professional football and has always kept good health, but I see him in hospital now with a broken mind because he’s so tired of the slow progress in recovery. The doctors are monitoring him closely, but I’m fearing the worst. 

Everything I’ve read seems to suggest he should be home recovering now, but that seems like a long way a way. I suppose my question is, is the slow recovery normal for a 70 year old man. Has the chemo / radio therapy damaged his immune system that much that progress is nigh on nil. I am trying to be strong for my mother who goes in every day to hospital. But I am at a loss what optimism and positivity I can offer. Is there hope for any sort of recovery :(

  • Hello Amac8756,

                               Think of climbing a hill carrying a huge weight, its slow hard going to get to the summit, but coming down you pick up pace and everything becomes that much easier.Now think how much easier it is when you are young.

    Of course its a slower recovery when you are older,in pace with your reduced metabolism,but you do get there even if you are the Tortoise looking at the Hare speeding away in the distance initially.

    l was in my early sixties when l had the pleasure of entertaining stage 4 bowel cancer with spread to the liver, and my recovery was slow at the start with barely perceptable steps of improvement, it was a case of a step. Bit by bit they add up and your horizon does come closer.

    You are right in viewing chemo/ radio as being unable to distinguish between friend or foe, but remember when foe is destroyed its only the friends that can be rebuilt..Positivity is your friends friend and goes such a long way to improving recovery

    l hope your father begins to show those first small signs of improvement and ease your families concerns and worries,

    David

  • Hi there and thanks for posting

    I am very sorry to hear about your father's situation and appreciate what a difficult time this must be for him and the rest of the family.

    Unfortunately there are times where there are complications following surgery and this often will delay the healing process and the time it takes for someone to fully recover. I'm afraid no one here can say what the short or long term may look for your father and this is something your family needs to ask the doctors involved about.

    It seems the doctors are keeping a close eye on your dad and they alongside the nurses will be doing all they can for him at this time. Do try and take things one day at a time for now and keep asking questions to gain a better understanding about what is going on.

    I wish you father all the best and hope he starts to turn the corner for the better soon.

    Take care and do get back in touch if you need to.

    Naomi

  • There is always hope for some sort of recovery! 
    the waiting time for results is the killer, once a plan is in place everyone I’ve connected with agrees things become far far easier to manage xx