My dad is now in his 4th hospital stay to stop the bladder cancer, that he has had for 12 years, from bleeding. He is otherwise a fit, mobile, independent 91 year old who is usually mistaken for 70. I don't know what to do. He gets a scrape and a few days later it is bleeding again. Bright red oxygenated looking blood. He has had 5 transfusions since 3rd dec. On loads of irrigation. He was meant to have been done again this morning but no, he was left. Are they hoping that he will die?