Coping with cancer and loss of family members

My name is Sarah, I'm married and we have 2 children together Sophie who's 14 and Leo who is 9.

I also have a son who is 25. My husband Gareth also has children Rhianna who is 23 and kiean who is 25.

I've been living with brain cancer for 14 years now. I was diagnosed when I was 3 months pregnant after having a major seizure. I eventually had an operation after Sophie was born and finished breastfeeding. It was after the surgery we found out it was a high grade 3 Glioma Astrocytoma on the right side of my brain. I had radiotherapy for 6 weeks.

I am also still dealing with the loss of my Dad and little brother who both died in 2005. I've never had counciling for the loss of losing my Dad to skin cancer and my little brother took his own life on the train tracks due to mental health problems and drug abuse as well as losing our Dad to skin cancer which was sudden for us as he was a proud man and didn't tell until he didn't have much time left. Only our sister new about him as she drove him to his hospital treatments.

Im currently trying to get a diagnosis for bipolar. It's proving difficult...I've been to the doctors who referred me to the Mental Health team for an assessment, I have had my assessment via a phone call? Was told by them that they don't diagnose but can give information.

  • Hello Sarah,

    I can appreciate that it has been a difficult time for you. You can meet with the community health team if you request a home visit or another follow up telephone call. They may be able to advise you about any bereavement counselling. Your GP may be able to refer you to NHS counselling for this. The UK charity Cruse offer bereavement counselling and details of this and local resources can be seen on their website.

    Unfortunately, as cancer nurses, we do not have an in depth knowledge of getting formally diagnosed with a condition that can affect your mental health.

    The UK mental health charity MIND have a helpline and may be able to advise you concerning a bipolar diagnosis. Your GP can also refer you on to a psychiatry NHS service that can actaully diagnose rather than offer support.

    I hope that this helps and you get help with things soon,

    Best wishes,

    Vanda