Supporting a friend

Hello all and thank you for taking the time to read this message. I am the neighbour of an eldery gentleman who has unfortunately been given a cancer diagnosis with an expected expectancy of 6 months. He does not have any relatives and is rather socially isolated. As a result I am looking to support him in this time along with another memeber of our community. He is currently in hospital for a different issue, it was here that the diagnosis was given. From communicating with him, he believes he will be released in the coming days. I am totally unaware of what will happen next, what care he may recieve and how we are to best help him in the immediate days and coming weeks. Any advice or guidance on what we are to expect and how we can support him as best possible would be greatly appreicapted and thankfully recieved.

Thank you,

CHM

  • Hi there CHM and thanks for posting

    I am sorry to hear about your neighbours situation and it is very good of you and another member of your community to offer to help him.

    We have some general information about supporting someone with cancer on our website that may be useful to read.

    If your neighbour is being discharged soon, usually the nurses on the ward will have referred him to any community services he may need now or potentially in the future. This may include district nurses, community palliative care team, Occupational therapist and/or physiotherapists depending on his needs.

    It may be useful to try and have a conversation with your neighbour as well as the hospital ward he is on to get a better understanding of this if you are able to.

    Patients needs will look different for everyone, there are physical, social, practical and emotional needs that often need addressing and this normally happens with a discussion or assessment to find out what is needed.

    It is difficult to predict what the future may look like for your neighbour and it is again only the doctors and nurses involved with his care who can say what may happen. Although as I say he should be under the radar of community GP's and nurses who will checking on him regularly to monitor him and make sure he is kept comfortable.

    You may also wish to pass on the details of silverline a conversation and befriending phone line for elderly people

    I hope this is helpful but do get back in touch if you have more questions.

    All the best to your neighbour and yourself as you navigate the next few months.

    Take care

    Naomi