Hello and thanks for posting,

I can understand your concern. If your mum is willing to give verbal and/or written consent for you to speak freely with her hospital team, that would help.

You could then make direct contact with the hospital team, and there may well be a hospital clinical nurse specialist (CNS) for urology. If not then via the consultant's secretary requesting a call back. You would then be able to ask about the situation and planned treatment. It is likely that they would have told your mum whether they thought it could be cancer, and she may not have grasped the conversation fully as this does happen. If something has spread to another nearby organ, then it is likely to be a cancer. I am sorry if this is upsetting to read.

But it is only her hospital team that can fully explain this to you.

I hope that this helps,

Best wishes,

Vanda

Hi Shooby and thanks for your further post

It is hard for us to answer questions like this as we are not involved in your mum's clinical care. Her specialist team are better placed to advise you on this as they are familiar with all her medical details. If she has a specialist nurse involved in her care then perhaps they can provide you with further information. You often have to call and leave them a message and they will get back to you. They are happy to speak to relatives provided they have the patients permission to do so. 

You explained that your mum's cancer has spread to her liver ( secondary cancer). The surgeons plan to try laser removal of the bladder tumour is likely aimed at relieving symptoms or slowing down the cancer. When cancer spreads to the liver treatments such as chemotherapy, targeted therapy or immunotherapy may be used to control the cancer and slow it's progression, but sadly it won't get rid of the cancer altogether. The aim is often to manage symptoms, improve quality of life and prolong life where possible.

I hope this reply helps a little.

Kind regards,

Celene

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