My Nan who is 86 went into hospital in September with unbearable pain. We was told she had breast cancer and it has spread . After staying in hospital for 3 weeks and having a course of radio therapy , she was allowed to go home . She was no longer in pain and seemed happy . I then took her to an appointment with oncology several times and scan appointments, etc. the hospital is 35 minute drive . She has been going in and out of the cold and pushing herself to do so , without resting after her hospital visit  .  she did agreed to start treatment . Hormone therapy and chemo tablets . I took her to her first appointment to collect her chemo tablets , she seemed different . The hormone tablets had made her emotional and depressed . She only had them for month and I mentioned it to the cancer nurses , but they said it wasn’t the hormone tablets . So We was hoping this would pass . After having only one chemo tablet. She was rushed back in with breathing problems . She had a lung infection and went onto anti biotics . After 2 weeks and finishing her anti biotocs . She has been discharged and is having care at home . She is even more depressed now and cry’s all the time . She hasn’t been taking her chemo tablets and is due to go back in a week for another appointment . I’m a support worker myself and I personally think that taking the hormone tablets has changed her personality and that the chemo tablets won’t have much effect on her. I think it will add more side effects and make her feel more worse than good .   I think the thought of going to and from hospital also , for the chemo tablets is going to make her feel worse too . Like before she needs to rest  . I think she felt so low the first time she went to her appointment that it had a impact on her health because she went back into hospital . I want my Nan to be happy this Christmas , I hate seeing her cry . She keeps telling me that the chemo tablets are making her feel sad . I have explained that she has only had one. The way she feels isn’t down to the chemo. Would it be ok for her to stop the hormone tablets to see if the crying and depression stops . Maybe put the whole treatment on hold until the new year . My Nan is usually young at heart , she has never been in hospital . She lost her first tooth last year . She is very healthy usually with no problems . She is usually very active , she still loves driving . she is a strong 86 year old and no one believes her when she says how old she is . and since all this has happened she  is very out of character since taking the hormone tablets. She isn’t eating , she isn’t reading anymore and is so sad . I honestly think that she needs time to process everything that’s happened since September . I think they are not being honest about how much her cancer has spread and they are giving her false hope by offering her the chemo treatment . She has had 2 hospital admissions and 6 appointments in less than 3 months . 
What is the best option for her ?