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Hi, my partner got the all clear from prostate cancer in September, 2 long years since his treatment started. The thing is i have started menopause and not always in the mood and well he is like a teenage dog on heat all of the time. He is making me feel terrible  and guilty, he is severely depressed and noone else's emotions, thoughts or feelings are  even registering  on his radar! 

He can't and won't see that his actions are affecting my mental health and wellbeing. He is really self centred,  unapologetic,  selfish man right now.

I have suggested that we go and see a sex therapist but that isn't good enough either. 

Please help, the treatment has completely destroyed the man that I feel  in love with all those years ago, and I miss him  terribly. 

Help please 

  • Hello and thank you for posting,

    I am sorry to learn of your situation at the moment, this must be very difficult.

    Cancer and cancer treatments can have a huge impact on all relationships, and it can be a very stressful time, testing the most resilient relationships. If your partner is not wanting to get support at the moment, perhaps it is about you getting support for yourself to help you manage the situation.

    I wondered if you have a friend or family member who you can confide in. Or whether you would consider having support from a counsellor.  You may also find it is worth contacting relate who are there to advise to help improve relationships. To begin with, you can book a short call with a counsellor and they can advise what support they can give.

    I hope this helps a little and you can find the support you need. Please feel free to get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care,

    Jemma

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