I hate the way this sounds, as accusing someone of lying is horrible, and that being cancer, is even worse. But I have a very close friend who has driven me to this point over the last year and i can’t help but believe she is no longer being truthful with me, or whether she has ever been. I’ve known her to tell the odd lie before, even joking she has a problem with telling the truth, but didn’t think she’d go this far. It started at the beginning of 2023 when she said she had a ‘mass’ in her brain, in April she said she had been diagnosed with brain cancer, but could not tell me the type or name or stages, only that the doctors are still figuring it out. Over the next few months she still couldn’t provide any more information and continued to smoke, sometimes drink, and go out to festivals and raves. She argued this was because even if she was sick she wanted to enjoy life. I asked multiple times to come with her to appointments to support her but she never takes me up on the offer, which could be nothing. In the last year she has said she has taken ‘pills’ rather than do chemo, and has claimed to be better, then worse and so on. She still looks the same and hasn’t lost any hair/ weight. She now says she is going to London for three weeks for radiotherapy. She distanced herself and we rarely talk, but she was like a sister to me, I need to know what’s happening, but it feels like she is refusing to be honest. It’s been over a year now since she was diagnosed and not much seems to have changed. like i said she claimed to be on some kind of medication, also at one point claiming she was going to a hospice, but then said she didn’t have to anymore. I’m confused and upset, please help me. Thank you
