Hi All, this is very difficult to write so I will just stick to the facts, as I know them. My partner had a partial nephrectomy 2 years ago. Apparently the initial scan showed a cancerous tumour on the kidney, hence kidney removal. I thought a biopsy would have to be carried out on the kidney after the surgery to see if it was a cancerous tumour or not?  I was never told the results of the biopsy or what stage the cancer was at. No treatment was given after the surgery as all the cancer had been removed with the kidney and it hadn't spread anywhere else.

2 years free from cancer and they continue to attend Maggie's Cancer Care unit for support as they have good days and bad days.  I have offered to attend with them but they'd rather go alone. I don't want to appear hurtful, uncaring or cold hearted however I think attending Maggie's is a crutch for attention, sympathy and to prolong the narrative. 

I don't doubt for one minute that there was a tumour on the kidney however I am doubting it being cancerous and/or they had cancer. I should say that I was planning on leaving my partner prior to this however now I feel like they are lying about having cancer and guilt tripping me into staying. 

l lost a parent to cancer and I watched them go through hell with some really tough times. It was a difficult and heartbreaking time and I felt like I was in a surreal bubble. This situation feels totally different and my gut instincts are telling me something isn't right. 

Obviously you can't tell me if they're lying or not but I just wish I could feel differently about this. Having witnessed a parent go through a cancer diagnosis, gruelling treatment and then losing them to cancer, it makes me angry to think anyone would lie about having cancer but deep down I know they are very capable of doing such a thing.

Thank you for allowing me to share here and for listening/reading.

Jaded