My mother was diagnosed with inoperable pancreatic cancer four months ago (stage 2/3). She has declined treatment because she also has heart failure. She has back pain and stomach pain continually and has very little appetite. She is 85 this year, but she is still my mother and I love her. My father only died 18 months ago, and my husband has recently been treated successfully for lymphoma. I feel so overwhelmed. I also have an 11 year old daughter who is becoming obsessed with the fear of death. I just don’t know what to do.