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Could this be depression?

Sundial21
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Hi, my partner was diagnosed with cancer about 2 yrs ago, he's had operations and tests show he's on the mend but not given the all clear yet, he's been back to work a while now so life is in a new normal. My concern is every time anyone in the family gets sick, he says he's got it too only he's worse, thing is he often doesn't have the symptoms it's like it's in his head. I'm currently unwell and he's telling people at work he has the same thing. He's not showing any signs of illness & is out tonight with friends. I appreciate the massive trauma he's been through but I don't know what to do anymore.

  • Hello and thank you for your post,

    I am sorry to hear that you are unwell.

    I can appreciate that this could be a difficult time following your partner's diagnosis and treatment of cancer.  He may be concerned about the cancer coming back and so whenever he hears anyone is unwell it could bring back memories leading up to his diagnosis.

    It is natural to be concerned about cancer coming back and worry that certain symptoms or being unwell could signify that it has. If your partner is worried about any symptoms, he should let his cancer team know. If they are concerned they can do tests to see if it has.  Remember, that it is possible to become unwell with something that is not related to cancer.

    Please remember that it can take some time to feel that life is getting back to normal.  In the meantime, you and your partner may benefit from getting some support from a support group or counselling. We have information about the support of care givers on our website that might be helpful to read.

    You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care,

    Caroline

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