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Intimacy with severe malignant ascites due to pmp cancer

Kc08
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Hi,

my partner currently has pmp cancer, not treated yet but waiting for a ref to a specialist hospital, I don’t know how to word this any other way than what it is, basically, my partner and I would very much like to be intimate with eachother, but his stomach is hugely distended due to severe loculated ascites, and I am terrified any type of “position” or heavy movement for want of a better word, may cause an injury, or damage? Is there risk considering how distended he is? 
Thankyou, K 

  • Hello and thank you for your post,

    I am sorry to learn of your partner's situation this must be a difficult time for you both

    Some people do worry about whether it is safe to have sex after being diagnosed with cancer. It is important to know that touching, penetration, or close physical contact cannot make the cancer worse or cause any damage. Also, you cannot pass on cancer through sex. 

    If you are both able to talk openly, about your concerns and needs this will help a lot and I hope you both find the information in the link above helpful.

    I know you are waiting for a referral, I don't know if your partner has a nurse specialist (CNS) whom he could chat with in the meantime which may be more reassuring as they will know your partner's situation.

    I hope this helps a little, please feel free to get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care, all the best

    Jemma

  • Offline in reply to CRUK Nurse Jemma

    Hi, 

    thankyou for replying, I’m not concerned about the cancer getting worse, as I know that isn’t the case obviously, what I mean is could it cause physical injury due to his hugely distended abdomen, due to the loculated ascites? 

  • in reply to Kc08

    Thanks for your further post,

    Unfortunately, we are just not in a position to advise you.

    You need to make contact with a doctor or nurse that is involved in his ongoing clinical care.

    I am sorry, and hope you find assistance soon.

    Kind regards,

    Vanda

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