My 85yr old grandma was diagnosed last summer, her symptoms are worsening and I'm terrified we're getting close to the end. My mum died just after Christmas and I cannot bear the thought of another devastating loss just yet. I'm pretty much caring for her so I see her several times a week and she seems to have got a little frailer every time I go round. She falls asleep at the drop of a hat, I think she spends the vast majority of her day sleeping and she's even fallen asleep on a stool while lighting her gas fire and then slipping off the stool when she woke disoriented (sure done this a few times and I've had to go pick her up off the floor!). She's barely eating, she has regular diarrhea (usually lasts a day every couple of weeks maybe? But currently she is on day 3 of this bout), possibly the most worrying is she has started bleeding. It was at first just vaginally (she had a hysterectomy many years ago) but a few days later she's now bleeding on/off from everywhere except hey eyes and ears (so nose, mouth, vagina and anus). She says it's not a lot but it's still concerning. 

She's also mostly still as sharp as ever but starting to get confused over simple things such as days of the week and forgetting items she's asked me to buy at the shop for her. She gets a lot of mystery aches and pains for no apparent reason and she struggles to walk because her legs hurt. She gets extremely breathless just walking (or shuffling, really) from one room to the next, (although not sure if that's to do with her heart condition, she has a pace maker for atrial fibrillation). When she told me about all the bleeding I tried to make her call 111 for advice but she refused saying she 'couldn't be bothered to wait on the phone, and she's been referred to be seen anyway.' (She went to the GP last week about the diarrhea and she mentioned the vaginal bleeding so he urgently referred her to gynae for suspected cancer)

She is due to see a haematologist but she couldn't go to her blood test last week because of the diarrhea so we're waiting on a new appointment for bloods. 

i feel so lost and out of my depth, dealing with this. I don't know what to look out for, what to expect or what I should do (if anything) to try and get her seen asap!