Hello and thank you for your post,

I am sorry to learn of your dad's situation, this must be a difficult time for you all.

In situations like this, it is normal to go through many different emotions including anger. You may also feel different on some days and can have good and bad days.  There may be several reasons why you are feeling angry such as, your dad having cancer has changed things in your family or sometimes the anger may be covering other feelings you have such as fear, anxiety, or sadness.

Other feelings such as resentment are also common and there can be several reasons for this. I wondered if you had anyone you could talk to about how you are feeling, it is important not to ignore your feelings and to look after yourself at what can be a very stressful time. There is some information on the Macmillan Cancer Support website about common emotions you may go through when a relative has cancer with helpful tips which you may find helpful to read here.

You mentioned that your dad has upped his morphine without telling anyone and that he is sleeping more. I wasn't sure what you meant by this. I wondered if your dad's medical team, or the symptom control/palliative care team involved in his care, are aware of this. If they don't know they do need to be told. You may find it helpful if you, or your mum, can discuss the morphine with them as they know your dad's situation and can advise better.

It is also possible that your dad may have depression which can be common with a cancer diagnosis, having depression can also cause someone to have no energy and want to sleep more often. Again it is worth talking to your dad's medical team about this as they may be able help him to manage this. There is information on our website about the common feelings someone with cancer may go through which can be found here. We also have information about how to support someone with cancer which you can read here .

Other support organisations you may also find helpful to contact Macmillan Cancer Support and Maggies

You would also be welcome to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday. Please do get back to us if you need to.

Take care

Jemma