Hello and thanks for your post,

I am so very sorry to hear about your mum and the difficult time that you must all be having.

I can understand at times like this it can be very overwhelming but try if you can to take one step at a time.

I can understand that it must be hard when you are so close to your mum but I am sure that she is dependent on your support. 

We have some tips on how to help support someone with cancer which you may find helpful to look at here

I am not sure if your mum has a specialist/palliative nurse, if she does do talk through how you are feeling with them. You need to get your mum's permission if you want to discuss her cancer and what her next steps may be. If your mum's liver is not working so well the doctors need to make sure that this is working well before they can consider giving her more treatment if that is what they are planning to do. 

Caring for someone with cancer is exhausting so it is important that you get support for yourself whether through close friends or other members of the family. I can understand that it can be hard for children when their granny is so ill. You may find it helpful to look at our website which has links to how to support children at different ages when cancer is in the family. Have a look here

It may also be helpful to chat to their teachers to let them know that your mum is ill with cancer so they are aware and can help support your children.

I am not sure where you are living in the UK but if you are near a Maggie Centre they offer support for patient's and their families and it can help to sit and have a coffee with others in a similar situation. You can have a look at their details and the different support that they offer here

Her GP is also there as a support and if she needs any help in the community further down the line then do get in touch with them.

You have posted in 'ask the nurses' but if you post on another thread or start your own you may hear from others.

The nurses are here on the helpline during office hours 9 -5 and our Freephone number is 0808 800 4040 and you are welcome to ring to talk it all through.

Wishing you all the best,

Catherine