Hi, I'm posting about my husband as I'm growing increasingly concerned.
He is awaiting results from ct scan + colonoscopy last week where they found a tumour on his lower bowel. He has never been to the gp about physical issues as he suffers from health anxiety but I forced him to speak to the GP after I noticed blood in his poo. He has always suffered from digestive issues which we controlled with cutting out gluten and avoiding trigger foods and for years he was in good health. He also has suffered from bouts of anxiety throughout his life - the health anxiety worry was always connected to his stomach and co incidentally his biggest health anxiety fear is bowel cancer.

After he lost his mum a year ago and work stress his anxiety and depression escalated and since then he began to feel sick with awful gagging and retching . We and the GP put this down to anxiety but since January he has suffered from diarhea and has been in bed for the last 3 months (only getting up to go to doc/hospital/ counsellor). He had a bout of food poisoning last Sep which seems to have triggered the nausea even more and his appetite has completely diminished. He never throws up food - just a bit of clear bile but the retching is getting worse. He was tested for parasites, H pylori and I assumed he had bad GERD or an ulcer as to begin with all problems seemed upper digestive related. He was referred straight away for the colonoscopy due the the  load in the faecal test that's when they found the tumour - I think I must have been in shock as I don't think I took too much info in when the consultant told us. I think he said it was 7-10cm but I hope I'm wrong. He had thrown up most of the second lot of medication before the colonoscopy so they couldn't see all of the bowel as it wasn't clear.

Obviously the tumour is causing a lot of these symptoms but I'm wondering if the depression is adding to the physical symptoms too. He has lost a lot of weight, (I'm sure due to minimal diet). He can only really eat bland foods at most twice a day- (porridge, eggy bread and cereal) wretches if he smells cooking when I'm making food for our kids which then stops him eating and is only sleeping around 3 hours a night broken by having to go to the loo 3 or 4 times. The classic bowel symptom have only really been present since the colonoscopy ( griping in tummy - he's been constipated then diarhea)

He is terrified that the results are going to be bad. I really don't know what to do. I've tried encouraging him to get up but he feels exhausted. I've tried high protein shakes, adding protein powder to his porridge - manuka honey everyday, ginger but it's getting worse. Lying in bed is making the depression worse but I can't force him to get up.

Can anyone relate to this - I'm desperate to help him. I swing between feeling really positive that the results won't be that bad to terrified that all these symptoms mean cancer has spread. Trying to be up beat around him and obviously for our kids 18 and 20 who both live at home. They are very worried too as dad has been poorly for months now, he's a shell of his former self and it's incredibly upsetting. 

Any advice would be great I'm pretty desperate.