Risk of cancer - BRCA testing/ no contact

This is messy, so please bare with me.

I have no contact with my mother for lots of reasons, I do not ever wish to talk to her again and have made peace with not having a relationship. When I cut contact she was having treatment for breast cancer and before we stopped contact she had me going through process of BRCA testing as I have 2 relatives that have previously had breast cancer. Long story but she refused the test despite being the one to tell me to ask for it. Theres more to it but thats the snippet.

I have today been told by another relative (against my will) that my mother is likely to get breast cancer again "because they can't get her blood right". I'm wondering if it is worth contacting the clinic that was previously doing my risk analysis? What does it mean "they can't get her blood right?".

It may seem selfish that I do not speak to her even though she has had cancer and I now have been told she is likely to get it again. I hope not to be judged for being worried about myself rather than her. Please know it's a result of a lot, lot of therapy following years of emotional abuse and narcissism.

  • Dear Em, and thank you so much for posting.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your situation and I'm sure even putting this all down was hard for you. It is not for anyone to judge here on this forum, it is about offering anonymous support and information. 

    I do not know what is meant by your mums 'bloods not being right, so she will get it again'. I am sorry I can't shed any light on this for you. 

    I am not sure what the clinic where you were seen will be able to tell you as they might not know either. But there you could try getting in touch with them, or you can discuss it with your GP.  

    I am sorry I can't tell you any more. 

    Take care Em, and I hope this gets sorted out for you soon. 

    Sarah