Hi, I was given the option too but for different cancer I had breast cancer.

I decided on the surgery first as then my chemotherapy and radiotherapy would be more targeted to what is left or margin of what would be left after surgery. 
I would advise to research and speak to your team about the pros and cons of having either before the other and wish you all the best x 

Thanks for your reply. The "team" is a disaster. So-called specialist nurse is new to the job and has to ask other people and get back to me. It's not in the least supportive when it's your life they're discussing.

my surgery will be radical spleen, peritoneum, maybe bowel plus female organs and omentum so that's "my decision" .  Plus, chemo dr appt not until 4April also, then another wait for treatment to commence. 
any idea how you can ask the consultant again?

Hi Mamamia,

I'm absolutely furious on your behalf. 
Your consultant should be advising you on this - not a nurse (however specialised s/he is). That's why consultants train for nine years and are so bl**dy highly paid.

That said, normal practice is often chemo first then surgery. This is because the chemo attacks fast growing cells including those growing back after surgery. That said, a friend had an emergency whipple, then a break, then chemo and he made a full recovery.

In you position, I'd be ring the consultant's medical secretary, explain the situation and request an urgent consultation for advice on what they recommend to be the best way forward and say you feel it is unfair that the nurse has put the onus on you to choose.

Good luck!

Dave