Impotence after treatment

Obviously a delicate conversation this one and a bit embarrassing, but since radio finished, it seems I've lost all life down there. November was the last time there was any sort of movement. It's becoming concerning not only to myself but for my wife. She's patient enough, she understands it's not her fault but the intimacy we once had is now no longer existent. I was told infertility may occur but having 2 kids already I didn't mind that. I don't remember impotence being mentioned and I'm sure I would expressed concern. 

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it permanent? Any supplements available? I'm on a heck of a lot of meds so whether this plays a part I do not know. 

I know this is a bit of a sensitive topic and it's took me some amount of bravery to post this but I need a solution sooner rather than later. 

Thanks all and good luck with our battles xx

  • Hello Matt0110,

                             not sure l can do much to ease your mind recounting my experience of radio.Although l can still get it up, nothing comes out,at climax,  its very much a memory of the previous firework display.and a lost friend

    l had six weeks of radio and noticed my output steadily drop off during that period. Given that was ten years ago l can honestly say l still mourn the loss but appreciate the fact l am still here to do it.

    good luck going forward,

                                            David

  • Hello and thank you for posting.

    I am sorry to hear about your situation.

    Chemotherapy does not usually affect the ability to have an erection if it does it is usually temporary and gets better once the treatment stops or a short time afterwards. 

    If you have not done so already then do let your cancer team and GP know about this. Your cancer specialist may be able to go through your cancer treatment to see if there was a possibility that it could have caused erectile problems. Your GP may also be able to go through all your medication you are are now taking to see if that could possibly affect this. Or if there could be another reason for it, remember that there can be many reasons why someone has erectile dysfunction and it might not have anything to do with the cancer treatment you had. The NHS has some useful information about this and what can be done to help in terms of treatment and support, look here 

    It might also help to get some emotional support during this time for both you and your wife. The above NHS information tells you how to access for this. We also have some more information on our website that may be helpful to read, look here 

    I hope this information will be helpful. Please get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care,

    Caroline 

  • Hi Matt,

    First off - thanks for posting the question ... I'm sure there'll be dozens of men out there too embarrassed to ask. You've probably seen the CRUK page on this but here's the link in case you missed it www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../mens-sex-life-and-fertility
    Hopefully someone who has been through this particular mill will respond about their personal experience - especially if they read this nudge. 

    I've not had RT but after chemo I was so drained physically and emotionally that sex was the last thing on my mind for a while. It was about 3 to 4 months before all the physical side effects of chemo wore off - I've read that ED issues caused by RT can take a year to clear. 
    According to the NHS website - "ED is common and is usually caused by stress, tiredness or drinking too much alcohol, and it's nothing to worry about." www.nhs.uk/.../
    See your GP in the first instance and give your body and mind time to recover! 
     

    Good luck

    Dave