Loss of a sibling

My sister was diagnosed at 13 with Ewing Sarcoma, she had treatment and rang the bell to later be told she was terminal. Then she then passed away last September when she was just 15. I'm the oldest sibling (aged 29) and she was the youngest. It hurts more than anything I have experienced in my life. She was absolutely terrified but ever so brave and fought till her last breath. She was one of the kindest and most caring person you could ever meet. Even though she knew she was terminal and it wouldn't save her, she took part in trials because she hoped it could help other people in the future. I miss her so much and can truly say I am so proud of her, always and forever. Quiarnah has been an absolute inspiration for me to be a better person so I decided I want to volunteer for a children's hospice. I'm going to take my documents in tomorrow and I'm so nervous of getting a knock back as I just want to make my baby sister proud... I haven't told my Dad yet incase it doesn't go to plan. Has anyone been in a similar situation or does anyone work for a hospice that has advice? Anything at all, I would be so grateful. I currently work as a HCA and aspire to be a paediatrics nurse but unfortunately I didn't get into uni so that's off the cards.

  • Hello and thanks for posting

    I am sorry to hear about the loss of your sister and can only imagine how difficult the past couple of years have been for you and your family.

    It sounds like your sister was an incredibly brave and inspirational young lady and I am sure the memory of her will live on forever.

    I think it is a wonderful thing that you are wanting to give back and are asking to volunteer at a children's hospice. Whilst I am sure they would be delighted to have you on board they may wish for you to take things slowly to begin with and make sure this is the right time for you to be doing this. It hasn't been long since the passing of your sister and I am sure they wouldn't want to put you in a situation that may upset you too soon.

    If you haven't had any already I hope you are aware of bereavement support available to you and your family to help you process and come to terms with what has happened. There is more information here.

    Please don't give up your dreams of being a paediatric nurse, whilst I can understand your disappointment in not getting into uni there are several ways you can access nurse training and the entry requirements needed, so do explore these options further.

    Hopefully others will also pop on here to give you advice as well but do get back in touch if needed.

    All the best

    Take care

    Naomi