Slowly losing dad

Hi, my dad was diagnosed with cancer of the bone a year ago,he had an operation, and all went well.4 months on and he now has secondary cancer, lung this time, they gave him 1-3 years.

He's had chemo and it did help slow down the groth of one of the nodules (the larger one) but not the other ones. 

He doesn't want more chemo if it makes him feel like the last lot did.

He brought me and my brother up with the help of my grandmother (his mum.)

Is there any where to go for me to talk and off load, I'm a bit of a mess to be honest,  I can't express emotions (cry) I'm grumpy, making simple mistakes at work, I have CBT for other reasons but it's not helping.  Thanks for listening. 

 

  • Hi Taylor80 and thanks for posting.

    It sounds like you are having a difficult time at the moment.  Lots of people find they need some outside support when a family member is living with cancer.

    You don't say where in the country you are, but many hospitals who have cancer treatment units will have a Maggies or Macmillan centre attached to them. They offer support to friends as family as well as the person undergoing treatment.  This can include face to face counselling, support groups and psychological support.

    You may also find the Cancer Care Map useful.  You can search support services by postcode to find ones to suit you in your local area.

    I wonder if you have spoken to your GP? They are very experienced in supporting families and may be able to direct you to other places that can offer practical and emotional help.

    I hope this is useful.  Please do get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You might like to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday (apart from bank holidays).

    Take care,

    Rachel