Hi there,
My 26 year old sister has been suffering from bowel and stomach cancer for over a year now but certain things are actually making me question if she has cancer still or had it at all. Here are a few things that don't add up:
She apparently has had an operation to remove her stomach and have it replaced with a bag (internally) I have triple checked with her that she didn't mean her bowels with a colostomy or ileostomy bag and she is adamant that it was her stomach with an internal bag. I have looked into this op and cannot find that it exists. She was also walking around a pumpkin patch and bending over a lot not even two days supposedly post op which I find hard to believe is possible that early on after major surgery.
Another is on multiple occasions she has told us she has sepsis but the doctors wont admit her for a few hours until the evening (we would be told this by her in the morning). I was under the impression (and have been told by NHS staff and people who have had sepsis) that any concern of sepsis and you are rushed in immediately because you could get septic shock and die. She would also be released 24 hours after (is this normal?).
One of the times she was meant to be in hospital with sepsis she was seen on a tractor lugging potatoes.
A bowel cancer nurse was telling me that it is quite rare for patients having chemo for just bowel cancer to lose their hair. We never actually saw my sister lose any hair, she just told us she was pulling out clumps (her hair was never patchy to indicate loss) and she elected to shave it so she wouldn't have to deal with the stress of hair loss (At the time she only had bowel cancer not stomach cancer and was only on chemo).
We have never taken her to hospital for treatments, we would offer but she told us an ambulance or nurse would pick her up from the house and drop her back off after treatment. On top of this sometimes the nurse would do chemo in her home. I have been at her home multiple times when the nurse was meant to visit and no nurse arrived, when I would point it out that the nurse hasn't come she would say that she and the nurse would text each other to rearrange. Is this not a waste of NHS resources? I've never heard of ambulances and nurses becoming taxi's before? And can chemo be done in a patients home?
She would also be sent home with injectable morphine, we never saw her inject herself but she did have needles and syringes. I work at a vets and we would NEVER give a controlled drug to members of the public to use! Is it different in human medication?
I would like to think (not in a bad way) that she did have cancer originally and that she hasn't lied about it from the office but I am strongly doubting that she still has it now. I don't know how to voice my concerns to the rest of my family because she is the 'golden child' and I honestly don't think they will believe me even if I explained all the inconsistencies to them. Is there a way I can find proof? Should I be hiring a private investigator? It makes me sad that she is quite literally taking advantage of this illness to get things out of people. Maybe I am wrong and if someone can logically explain all of these inconsistencies and how they could fit stomach and bowel cancer then I would 100% leave it and her be.
