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My husband is passing blood while going to the loo and had been for 6 to 8 weeks. I have just found out about this and he wont go to the drs...he sadi hes not scared but of course he is, he says it is what it is and he will roll with it. Hes 57. Do I call the drs, although I dont have authority to speak for him or tell our daughters and worry them but they may be able to get through?

 

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    Hi there, before I start, I am not an expert, however, I have experience and I know one or two people who have had the same scenario.

    Please tell your husband from me, go straight to the doctors, they may catch it early if he has not experienced blood before.

    He would have a Cystoscopy and hopefully all would be well.

    If not, he will be offered a TRUBT and they will sort him out.

    A friend of mine went to the toilet and he passed a lot of blood, however, he was caught early and treated!

    Hope this helps, tell him not to worry, he will be in very capable hands.

  • Hi Jane12345678 and thanks for posting.

    It sounds like a worrying time for you both.

    It can be very scary for someone when they have symptoms such as passing blood but more often than not they do not turn out to be cancer.  However it is always a good idea to check out symptoms like this.  You do not say whether the blood is being passed when he is opening his bowels or passing urine, so I have added some information below about both.

    Your husband may be worried about the examinations or tests he could have at an appointment, we do have information on our website about what to expect when going to see the GP if he is seeing blood in his poo.  There is information here about seeing the GP if your husband is passing blood when he is weeing.

    You are able to raise a concern about your husband's health with his GP but they would not be able to discuss any details with you.  There is more information on the NHS website about this. So it is possible to do it, but perhaps showing your husband this information and talking to him about why you are so worried might help to start an open conversation with him.

    Sometimes sharing these sorts of details without consent can cause people to feel upset and stop them sharing any kind of health worries they have in the future.

    I can't tell you whether you should discuss it with your daughters, perhaps sharing the information in the reply with him will help him to feel that he can get some medical advice about what is happening.

    I hope this is helpful but please do get back to us if you need any more information or support.

    He can also give us a call on our nurse helpline if he want's to talk anything through. The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care

    Rachel

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    Thank you, after reading the replies I went a spoke to my husband and he was very tearful as no doubt scared. I rang the drs at 5.30 and they are seeing him tomorrow. He says hes not going but I think he will as he didnt stop me making the appointment. Unfortunaltely its at the end og the day tomorrow but Ive told him if he doesnt go I will be forced to tell our daugters, I dont want to tell them yet as it may be something other than the worse that keeps coming to our minds. Thank you for reply, you may of palyed a part in helping someone as I told him I had reached out. Thank you.

  • Offline in reply to Jane12345678

    It's a pleasure and tell him from me, he has made the correct choice.

    Hope everything works out well for you both.

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