I just want answers

My dad has cancer and well his name is Stuart and I'm his daughter. I wanted a username to represent him rather than myself because he's the one going through this.

Anyway, he has stage 4 cancer and we were told immediately it was terminal. Appointment and things were delayed due to covid, which is how it got to stage 4 before anybody noticed. He has mouth cancer and well it is what it is now. The problem with removing it is that it was connected to the bone marrow and bone and it's close to his eye. 

He has also developed a ulcer on his tumour to and I don't know what this means and even contacting his nurse I never got a straight answer. All I know is that the immunotherapy didn't work which I know isn't uncommon, but now he's having chemotherapy every week (Tuesdays to be specific, like today.) The ulcer isn't going, infact it's getting worse and worse everyday and growing. So his body isn't fighting it off even though he is on plenty medication which is supposed to reduce it.

With the Chemotherapy now being weekly, the ulcer not improving and the immunotherapy not working I'm not sure what's happening. I need to add my dad cycles 3 miles to and from the hospital every week to prove he can. But he says it was specifically hard today, it could be the wind but he only really leaves the house once a day now, he cycles everywhere. But is becoming less active by the day, I don't know if it's closing to the end. 

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  • Hello, and so sorry you are going through this.  When I realised that my Mum was actually dying from cancer, I spoke to one of her Doctors and demanded to be told the truth, and I was told that my Mum's cancer was in-operable and that she was in her final days.  It is devastating to be told that you are going to lose your parent, but at the same time, I needed to know the truth, so I know exactly how you feel.  Perhaps you should directly ask your Mum's Doctor.  Take care, Violet, x

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  • Hello, and so sorry you are going through this.  When I realised that my Mum was actually dying from cancer, I spoke to one of her Doctors and demanded to be told the truth, and I was told that my Mum's cancer was in-operable and that she was in her final days.  It is devastating to be told that you are going to lose your parent, but at the same time, I needed to know the truth, so I know exactly how you feel.  Perhaps you should directly ask your Mum's Doctor.  Take care, Violet, x

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