Worried about my mum.

Hi everyone.

Hope you are all doing well.

I'll try to make this post short but as the title says I'm really worried about my mum.

On Friday the 11th of February she went for a chest xray after having pains in her mid chest area/sternum, she describes them as a pulling pain a lot of the time. When she got home there was a voicemail from the doctors receptionist saying could she ring them back regarding her xray, then they said it's nothing to worry about. My mum rang them back and was told that the GP would be calling her on Monday morning.

After a weekend of worry the GP called and the first thing she said was is anybody there with you, my mum said no and the doctor replied oh that's unfortunate then began to tell my mum that the xray has shown shadows on both of her lungs and that there's a possibility that it could be a cancer that has spread - My mum, who is now 71 did have breast cancer in 2011 (lumpectomy, chemo, radiotherapy, Tamoxifen for so many years and now a medication that I think begins with an O? which she is due to stop taking this month). The doctor told my mum that she'll be sent for an urgent CT scan that week. We heard nothing all that week but on the week commencing the 21st of Feb a letter came through for a mammogram, ultrasound and maybe a biopsy on March the 15th and then she had to have a blood test on the 24th prior to arranging her CT scan appointment (I assume this is to do with the dye that they use during the scan). The scan is now booked for Sunday the 13th of March and the worry is unbearable. Today my mum said she's having pains in her upper back and chest. 

I don't even know what I'm asking for here, I just feel like I need some help, support, advice, reassurance please...Could these shadows on the lungs be nothing? Can cancer be seen and diagnosed from a chest xray? Would a GP say something like that on the phone if she wasn't sure? 

Thank you for reading and I'm sorry it wasn't a short post! 

All the best to you all x

 

 

 

  • Hello and thank you for your post.

    I am very sorry to hear about your mum's situation and I can appreciate the worry it is causing.

    While a chest x-ray cannot say for certain that someone has cancer in the lungs, it can give information that someone could have cancer. I think this is what the GP has explained. Your mum is going to have further scans and bloods taken, so I am afraid it is now all about waiting to have these done and then for the results. After your mum has had the scans do ask her to find out when and how she will be told the results.

    I realise that this is a big worry especially as your mum had breast cancer a few years ago and is still undergoing some treatment.  Also it  sounds like she has some pain and this will add to everything else going on. Being worried can make pain feel worse.  Do ask your mum if she is currently taking any pain relief medicine. If she is not or if they are not working then she might want to get back in touch with her GP to ask about medicine that can help her feel better. She can do this now.

    It sounds like you know when the scans will take place, so hopefully your mum will not have to wait too much longer to have a better understanding of what is the matter.

    Please do get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care,

    Caroline 

  • Thank you for your reply Caroline. Do you think there's a chance that these shadows on the lungs could be nothing, or at least nothing too serious. It just surprises me how a doctor can phone a patient and say there's a possibility that it's a cancer that's spread and we'll be sending you for an urgent CT scan this week if she's not sure what it is and the CT scan isn't until 4 weeks after the phone call now.

    I'm trying to think positive and not think the worst but then I start wondering is there any point in thinking like that and do I need to prepare myself for the worst. Is it likely to be a cancer that's spread or is the doctor just being thorough and cautious. My mum said how the doctor was talking on the phone it's as if she was trying to say that it is something bad, but is she allowed to give bad news like that before any tests have been done that would confirm or dismiss it. This doctor does have a bit of a reputation for being very abrupt and not very compassionate 

  • Hello

    It is  possible that what they saw might be unconnected to cancer.  It sounds like the doctor was trying to prepare you mum as they think there is a possibility that it might be serious.  It is extremely difficult when something like this happens waiting for tests to be done, but they are the only way of finding out what is happening.  It must be so hard for you all, and it is not surprising that you are upset and worried.  The best thing to do now is hope for the best and, although this is very hard, try to do things to take you mind off things until the scans are done.

    Take care

    Martin   

  • Thank you Martin, the waiting is unbearable and the thought of hearing bad news is even worse. If it has spread to the lungs then that's terminal isn't it? I've been googling since my mum had the phone call and I do see that things can be treated but is that always the case? I can't help but look at the worst case scenario with things like this and I'm just hoping and praying that we get good news.

    Sorry to keep going on but would they try to prepare my mum if they weren't pretty much certain that it is cancer. Can they look at an Xray and know that its definitely cancer? I feel constantly sick and can't function and its over a week yet until she has the CT scan. My mum seems well apart from these chest pains and of course the anxiety of all of this.