Hello and thanks for getting back in touch

I am sorry your dad is still unwell and is needing another scan to find out more.

Unfortunately there sometimes can be complications and hopefully the scan will give more information about what the issue may be.

As many people have also said on here everyone is different and it can take a while for the bowel movements to return to a normal pattern and this can take time.

I hope your know more and your dad starts to improve soon.

All the best

Naomi

Thank you yes I am a lot like my dad. He has to have another op today and unfortunately they have made the decision to now remove his bowel and give him a stoma. I think this has actually had a positive effect on him as he just wants the bowel gone so all the issues he has been having will stop. Once he has healed from this op and he has got used to it he will be home which is where he wants to be so it's sort of a relief for him. It's upsetting that the original op didn't work but his bowel just does not want to work now so this is the best for him and he actually sounded the most positive I've heard him today.'they have said it could be reversed at a later date but he has said no at his age just take it away and let him get on. 

Hello Paisley,

                     sorry to hear the original op did not work.l live in scotland and the policy was to always go to a stoma rather than resecting the tumour and joining up the bowel straight away.l chose a reversal at a later date but that has come with a five year journey to get to relatively managable position that l am in today.The overriding lesson l have learnt is that the the bowel does not take kindly to being interfered with and only ever returns to a "new normal".

l hope the op goes well,and that he copes well with his stoma,lots do and at his age it would be my choice.Unfortunately for me l rejected the sealing rings on my skin and it just would not heal, but l have never been able to wear watches rings or necklaces of any type without triggering an allergic reaction,thank goodness l am not the same with clothes.Please post in the future when he is recovering well since positive messages will help those following in his footsteps,

                                                                                                                                  David

Thank you David your messages have really been a great help to me and my understanding of what's going on with my dad. He sounds like he is in good spirits and we are all hopeful that this will be what he needs to start feeling a bit better. His stubbornness has kicked in and he won't be beaten so hopefully that will stay with him. He has never been allergic to anything apart from bees so hopefully he will be fine with this. I will 100% update when he is feeling better and they have let him home. His birthday is coming up so we are all hoping he will be home for that. Thank you again your advice has been invaluable.

Anne-Marie

Paisley 2021

Hi just read your post about your dad, and i understand  that your worried ,so thought I'd tell you about me ,and my experience of my bowel operation I had in 20i5 . 

I had colonoscopys ( one of many,( and a flat sessile polyp was found,it couldn't be dealt with on that day,so a linger slot waa sheduled for another day for it to be dealt with .  During the next colonoscopy,I had blue dye instead into the said flat sessile polyp, and it was cut away in five sections.  It waa sent to biobsy, and the results were  high grade dysplasia  pre cancerous cells  in the  polyp, I got the results back within a week and  on a Friday and I  was seen on  the Monday, and surgery was planned by my surgeon for the next day, but I panicked when the surgeon drew a sketch of my bowel and told me she planned to do a  complete right side  bowel resection, taking my appendix away and a small piece of my intesrine. I said no,as couldn't take it in,but surgeon understood and said ring me if you change your mind, as it may or may not turn into cancer, its a hard decision for you to make. 

Anyway I talked ot over with my family and they persuaded me to call and go through with it. So on the Thursday of that week ( the Monday slot had gone) I went into have the operation.

It wasn't  great, as they do blow you up with a lot of air, to be able to get a better view inside. So when your dad comes round he will probably have a bit of discomfort in his back and neck from the bloating.  As for having the tube down,  they do tell you that may happen,its called ilious ( I'm not  sure if that's how you spell it (  where you keep being sick,,from your bowel not working properly bexause its been pulled about a lot durung operation.  It's not pleasant, but once it's down , it stops you from being sick. I had the tube down my nose into the stomach because my bowel was sluggish, and so i.kept bring sick i was scsted to have it taken out uncaee i startedtobe sick again. This was a good send,and I had a thing attached to the tube which they collected any thing that i wound of sicked up. After a while  this stopoed,,and they then take the tube out. And then you start to drunk  eat   things  like water,cups of tea and soup,,I then was able to start to eat normaly. 

Your dad is telling you the truth,yes its uncomfortable, and going to the toilet the first time is scary,but it doesn't Hurt. Your dad will then be able to gain his strengh back,and start to walk around the ward. They will look after your dad ,he's in the best of care. I don't know if you dad had had a simular operation  to me,but I'm here to tell the tail,I got through it and so will your dad. 

Hope this helps you to put your mind at rest. 

Just realised reading all the other replies your Dads having a stoma fitted,I hope all goes well for him .xxx

Thank you I hope so to 

Thank you. Yes it has helped and I know he will get there. Thank you for explaining your journey it sounds similar to my dads. X

Hello  Anne-Marie

                               indeed this is much better news and another small forward step for both your Dad and yourself. He has been through a lot and it will as you say ,take time now to recover. From memory this period is where the days seem forever and progress seems so limited,but of course the reality is that your mind is just moving at a faster pace than your body, the trick is to get your mind to slow down a little,rather than allowing it to fret over getting your body to move faster, 

Thank you for sharing your good news that he is once again restored to his home and family where he can continue to make progress, and you can have a little easing of the pressure you have recently been under. 

        l hope this continues to be the case,take good care,

                                                                                          David